The struggle is we love what we know is SAFE. We get thrown into this meat grinder of a job and expect for us to deal with other people's baggage. It takes a real, special person to take the time and effort to reach out. Honestly, we as all face our personal stuff alot times ALONE. SAFE and ALONE is what our primitive instincts drive us towards. This same instincts that keep you save makes fo a lonely place later. It sure is powerful because it can wreck many a person. Isolation, feelings of abandonment, and loneliness are signs to get help. You can learn to turn the high instinctive patterns down or off and let your true self take control.